Being Adopted - Mia's Story

Date: May 18, 2020 Author: Communications Contract Staff Coordinator Categories: Adoptees | Guest Blogger
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By Mia K (age 9)

The worst thing about being adopted is missing your first family. My friends, today, I am talking about being adopted. You might know that there are lots of kids in Canada, over 20 thousand, waiting to be adopted. What you might not know is what it feels like to be adopted. I was six years old when I was adopted, but kids can be adopted at any age. You might think that I was lucky to be adopted, but adoption is really sad because you have to switch families, you are always afraid that you might have to switch families again, and you miss your first family.

It’s horrible to switch families, and some kids have to do that lots of times before they are adopted. You have to leave a place where you feel safe, and you have to live some place where you don’t feel safe. There are a lot of new things that you haven’t played with before. It’s exciting and scary at the same time. The best thing about my new place was my ginormous king-size bed. The worst thing was that my parents didn’t smell right. It took a really long time for them to smell right, and it took a really long time until I started to feel safe. Imagine that tomorrow, you have to move to another place, and you have to leave all your family members, even your pets, and you have to leave your friends behind. In the new place, you have strangers for parents, and you have new rules, and a new school with no friends. 

The second thing that is horrible about being adopted is that you always are afraid that you might have to switch families again. Even though in your brain, you know you have a forever family, your body still feels scared because you have experienced a really rough time in your life. When bad things happen, your brain starts to change, and the bad things can’t go away. It feels like they might happen again.

The last thing that is horrible about being adopted is missing your first family. All kids love and miss their first family, even if it wasn’t a safe place, and even if they are mad at them. Imagine you have to switch families, and you miss your mom’s smell and the way she puts you to bed, the way she talks, and the way she does things. It hurts every day.

As you can see, it is hard to be adopted; even though it seems special, it is hard. Because it is horrible to switch families, you are always afraid you might have to move again, and you always miss your first family, lots of kids who are adopted don’t like to talk about it so much. If you are one of those kids who likes to ask so many questions, they might not trust you after that. I don’t like to talk about the hard things, but I do like to talk about the nice memories I have of my first family, like having a tv in my room. I feel sad about the other kids waiting to be adopted because they might have to wait longer than I did. I had to wait for two years before I got adopted, and they might have to wait for five or ten years, or they might not get adopted at all. So, even though it is sad to be adopted, I feel grateful to have a forever family because I like my new house now, even though I traded my ginormous bed for a bunk bed, and my parents aren’t strangers anymore.