Many people believe that openness means contact. But really, openness happens across a spectrum. Part of that spectrum is being open and honest with our children and youth about their histories.
Having these conversations can be hard, but they’re also important. We know that it’s better to start as early as possible.
Why would we want openness in adoption?
In general, the goals of having openness in adoption are child focused. Openness can:
- minimize the child's loss of relationships
- maintain and celebrate the adopted child's connections with all the important people in his or her life
- allow children to resolve losses with truth, rather than with fantasy
- allow for children to maintain cultural and other important connections
For National Honesty Day, we want to encourage you to think about how you can bring openness into your family. You can start your openness journey by reading our Understanding Openness section on AdoptOntario.ca.
How do we do it?
If you’re wondering how you can start bringing openness into your family, or how to have those age-appropriate conversations we want to help.
Connect with our Permanency and Adoption Support Services (PASS) at firstname.lastname@example.org of 1-877-ADOPT 20 option 3.
You may also want to consider attending a future offering of our free parent training program, Pathways to Permanence 2, which covers this and many other important adoptive parentings topics. Learn more about Pathways 2.
We’ve put together an openness resources page including articles and studies on openness. You can find it here.
Tell us about it!
Do you have experience with openness? Have you been thinking about it? Do you have concerns? Leave a comment below or tell us about it on Facebook and Twitter. @ontarioadopts.
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